The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “In Due Time.” has asked us:
“What’s your next, most pressing deadline? Are you excited, stressed, or ambivalent about it? What’s the first thing you’d like to do once you’re done with it?
Well, members within a same family live for each other’s deadlines and that’s what a family is all about. Currently it is my husband’s approaching deadline for his new job that is giving us mood swings.
Few months back, he had to switch jobs as his previous contract finished rather the company closed its local office. The new job search went on along with plans to start his own business. This in-between-jobs phase was a really eccentric one. I knew it all the time that this stagnant phase was a temporary one and I could also sense a big change of events around the corner. And yet, this phase was very difficult to pass.
After what seemed like endless time, he has got a new job. Thus moving from one great job to another, he will soon leave Sydney to go to Cairns in Australia. He is looking forward to it. He loves travelling, staying in different wonderful cities. For me and my son who cannot go with him in all his journeys, there is a charm of hearing about new experiences, of him getting pretty little things from the new cities often some mementos and of course lots of photographs.
So right now, this is the deadline. To see him off and see him settled well in his new job. There is tension. The packing goes on while he bids farewell to his own friends or is it the other way around? Well, doesn’t make much difference to me. There is excitement, there is stress for me and my son, and there is anticipation of a different yet more adventurous future as Cairns is supposed to be fun. There is charm, there is hope and there is unknown fear.
This tension will slowly build up till the 4th of January, the D-day. Once this deadline arrives for him and for us, from the very next day I too will begin a different life. I can’t join him so I will have to plan a new lifestyle here in Sydney. All these months, while he was trying to get his own life back to track, I had lost my own track. Well somewhat. If one member’s life goes disjoint, it does influence every other family member as well.
So my life will suddenly be too smooth, almost boring. Quieter too. Other than my work-related stress, there will be lesser household work. But that’s an illusion as he has been very helpful, esp during the in-between-jobs phase. So when he goes, all the load falls on me and I would need to reschedule my time-table as well as daily shopping to go with my altered dinner menus. Unlike India, we have no helpers here .
And yet, I look forward to spending my own hours, maybe some better planned writing and reading, going for window shopping, for long walks, in fact anything that pleases me. Renew my friendships with female friends. Will also up skill my Web Development knowledge. May go for doing more volunteering and social service around town. And of course I can go back to my native country India and spend longer time this time.
But on my very first day alone, that is the 5th of January, I will rest and sleep a lot. I have been through such times before so I know what works.
This will be just a deadline like many others that life is full of. One should look at any changing phase in a positive way and make the most of it. After all, we in the family have to support each other in meeting the deadlines like these.