Have seen it time and time again
Those who hurt us in some big way
And never feel sorry, come what may
Never realize and never acknowledge
But act as if theirs is always a superior way
They’re sure to hurt us more and more
In the same manner in the same way
Be it in a small or in a big way, hence
Get an apology in time if you may
Before things go bitter, before it’s too late
Well, not to have them fall at your feet
But that they truly regret from their heart
That things shouldn’t have turned sour
That they didn’t want to blurt or hurt
That they didn’t want to break your heart
Do this! Or else you’re left with no choice
But to learn to forgive them again
And again and again; that is
Each time they treat you the same way
Which, mind it, they will – again and again
Apologies, when too hard to come by
Means, they take you for granted
Or that they do not fear losing you
Or they do not love you so much that
They cannot hurt you. In fact they never did.
© 2016 Alka Girdhar
Does it seem like a harsh poem? I wrote it impulsively but I do believe in forgiveness too; because while an apology is a powerful tool for the ‘best’ survival of any relationship, including that of siblings, family, friends, colleagues…what can you do if people continue to believe they never went wrong?
If they are adamant, and if we cannot avoid dealing with them, then the best we can do is simply imagine that we got an apology.
But as I said in my poem, an unrendered apology comes with a cost; a risk of receiving repetitive hurt which one must learn to bear and ignore.
Correct me if I’m wrong!