Our friends from virtual world play a significant role in our lives but in such a subtle manner that we do not even realize. When we read about other people’s life stories or see their online pictures, we too transform, either negatively or positively. Negatively when we start assuming that every other person’s life is better than ours, which may not be the case. Mostly it is a positive change because we learn so much from our online friends, without even stepping out of our house.
So, responding to the prompt FiresideChat, I can very well say that after reading such inspiring blogs by sensitive caring writers, it would be a privilege to meet them in real. There are two emphatic female bloggers I particularly felt affinity to but I may never get to see them.
My conclusion is, that if at all we wish to see our virtual-world friends in real life, then it is better to do so at the earliest possible because if we do not meet them for a long time, then seeing them face-to-face at some later stage turns out to be a case of either faulty perceptions and impressions, or else the rapport doesn’t build up. They may seem very different in reality and thereafter we lose them off-line as well as online. So, if at all you wish to see them for real, never leave it for too long. Otherwise be happy being online friends.
And yes, while there are many people in my life whom I would like to know better, would like to have a personal chat with them by the fire-side…there is specifically one person I heartily wish to know better. Today, as I talk about her, I feel I do know her very well and yet do not know her enough.
What happens is that as soon as I am sure I know her, and have formed a confirmed opinion about her that she is like this, or she is like that…then soon she seems very different. Confuses me. Drives me crazy. The very issues and habits in her that appeal me today, do not appeal me the very next day. Sometimes she is totally feminine, like some insecure girl rather than being a woman. And then she is changed the next day, confident as can be, beyond recognition.
That is why I want her to tell me about her inner fears, hidden wishes and desires that she doesn’t tell anyone. I want to sit and listen to what she has to say as only I can be her best friend. This much I know. This heart-to-heart chat will also improve our relation.
The fact is, I see her every day. She’s there with me very often though sometimes even when she’s physically with me, she’s away in her her own world, her cocoon.
Have you guessed by now that I am talking about myself? I would like to meet myself face-to-face and talk. I would like to observe myself, by going outside of me…judge myself objectively in a detached way. I want to communicate with myself to get the inner self-realization about my purpose in life.
I want to know myself more than what others know about me. Mostly, others define who I am. My childhood friends and siblings remind me that I was like this or that, and I believe them. My mother tells me I am like this and I completely trust that she knows much more about me than I myself do. Thus I get approvals and certificates from everyone known so as to conveniently define my behavior and adapt my future goals as per their previous set expectations.
Till now, my community and society defined my life for me. What was charted out for me by the capitalist materialistic world was meant to be followed during my teens and younger age. Now, as a mature woman, I would like to sit with myself and have a heart-to-heart chat about her (my) life that she had till now. I want to know what she (me) wants to do with the rest of her life, so as to make the most of it. I want to know her (me) through my eyes not this world’s eyes. I want her to re-discover her hopes, her strengths, her passions, her beauty, her inner truth. I want to heal her of any hurt that I myself have given to her.
I will soon chat with my bestest friend and share it with you all.
My above thoughts are for my own self-realization but they need to be applied by all human beings at various stages of life. And as said by one Doris Mortman, ‘Until you make peace with who you are, you’ll never be content with what you have.’
“What person whom you don’t know very well in real life — it could be a blogger whose writing you enjoy, a friend you just recently made, etc. — would you like to have over for a long chat in which they tell you their life story?”
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